SMU again

i felt like i was back in smu... my hands tied to some invisible KPI that goes up whenever my hands does... haiz.. i rem some of those times in the SRs when i have no idea what questions i want to ask and i had to force myself to ask something... man it is cruel... i mean... like hello? why ask something just because?

i recall a study/research i have heard somewhere.. about rewarding people when they do something specified. It shows that while people who arent very much into the activity seems to do more... and would do it for the reward... people who in the first place already like doing the activity register lower 'happiness' when doing the activity for a reward...

this is not totally similar to my case... because the KPI is invisible and maybe imaginary BUT... there are some similar dissatisfaction i think... i would rather go in with an open mind and really listen than to have something prepared needless of whatever the speaker has to say... what do you think? i mean seriously.. the whole time you are most prob psyching yourself up to asking the question which is most prob not relevant to whatever the speaker say than listening to him... huh? huh?

lol... and with this... i draw a curve and loopy line to Active listening.. Do you know what constitute Active listening? It is a simple simple thing just terribly hard to do...

for example... when you listen to a complaint, a sad story from a friend or colleague... are you in your mind also forming your reply? This is esp. true in arguments... When your family, love one is recollecting their day, are you thinking of your own workload? ticking off the To Do List in your head?
- All these and more are all NOT active listening...

So what exactly is active listening? Hm... i guess... it is just paying attention and being sincere about wanting to know more, without going into making judgements and thinking of solutions or replies.. just trying to understand and hear what the other party's got to say...

Tough huh?

Eye candies in Burberry Campaign

Stupid 811

Sheesh I am at the bus stop at 8am. And then I has no choice to take the 811E bus which is not the one I was waiting for bec it is already 8.20am.And then I have to wait in a damn long queue for 811! Sheesh. So here I am bitching about it.
Love my iPhone absolutely hate the bus!!!


So late...

- Posted on my trusty ifone :)

The new but unwanted Mui Mui Bag S$1500

Seriously, i have no idea who reading my blog would be willing to fork out $1500 SGD for this tiny bag ( no way you can fit A4 paper inside without folding). But my cousin is terribly unfortunate to kenna this from her boyfriend...

ok the story goes like this...

Boyfriend wanted to surprise his girlfriend with a gift since she hinted that their relationship quite dull and boring... so he asked his guy friend... who asked his girlfriend to buy a gift for my cousins... $1500 exchange hands.... and the girlfriend bought back this bag.. which is... erm... (no way to put it nicely except to say....but) .. erm, a surprise!

So, here it is... brand new.... not carried out of house... and up for adoption. Anybody want to take home this NEW but unwanted Mui Mui at $1500?

Let me know ya?

(Ps... cus... u owe me for cheapening my blog for u!!!! hahaha)

Shamelessly copied from T. of Magpies (see side bar)

17

Why is the word yes so brief?
It should be
the longest,
the hardest,
so that you could not decide in an instant to say it,
so that upon reflection you could stop
in the middle of saying it

by Vera Pavlova
and translated from the Russian by Steven Seymour


I think the same too... it is all too easy to say "yes" without fully understanding what you commit to and what responsibilities you are offering to shoulder and what you have chosen to put your stamp on.